In The Name of Allaah, The Most Merciful, The Bestower of Mercy.
Al-Allaamah Abdur Rahmaan Bin Yahyah Al-Muâallimee [may Allaah have mercy upon him] said, “A person is nurtured upon a religion, creed, school of thought or views acquired from his nurturer and teacher, which he considers to be the truth and followed it for a long time; then when it becomes clear to him that (such religion, creed, view or school of thought) is false, it becomes difficult for him to acknowledge, just as when his forefathers, ancestors or the one he follows are upon a (particular) way and then its falsity is clarified for him. This is because he sees that their deficiencies necessitate his own deficiencies and acknowledgement of their misguidance or errors necessitates his own deficiencies.
In this era of ours, you even see a woman who comes across an affair related to the religion â in which there is a difference of opinion between the mother of the believers Aaâisha and others amongst the companions [may Allaah be pleased with all of them], so she defends Aa’Isha’s position solely due to the fact that she is a woman like her. So, when she presumes and then claims that Aa’Isha is correct and those men who oppose her position are mistaken, then in this is an affirmation of Aa’Isha’s virtue over those men, which then becomes a virtue for women unrestrictedly and she receives some of that. And through this appears â to you â the underlying reasons behind the illegal partisanship of an Arab to an Arab, a Persian to a Persian, a Turk to a Turk and other than that. (1)
Conversation between Abu Jahl and His Nephew Al-Musawwar Bin Makhzamah
Al-Musawwar Bin Makhzamah: ââO my uncle! Did you use to accuse Muhammad of lying before he started saying what he says now [i.e. his call to Tawheed]?
Abu Jahl: âBy Allaah, indeed Muhammad was a trustworthy young man amongst us and we have never experienced lying from him.
Al-Musawwar Bin Makhzamah: âO my uncle! So why is it that you do not follow him?â
Abu Jahl: âO son of my sister! We competed with Banu Haashim in nobility [i.e. which clan is more noble], so they used to feed [the pilgrims] and we used to feed the [pilgrims]; they used to provide water for [the pilgrims] and we used to provide water for [the pilgrims]; they used to give protection [to the destitute] and we used to give protection [to the destitute] until we were equal [i.e. in competing one another for nobility]. Then they said, âThere is a Prophet from usâ, so when are we going to get something similar to this!!
Conversation between Abu Jahl and Akhnas Bin Shuraiq
Akhnas Bin Shuraiq said to Abu Jahl on the day of Badr [i.e. the battle of Badr]: âO Abul Hakam! Inform me about Muhammad, as to whether he is a truthful person or a liar, for indeed there is no one here from Quraish who will hear our speech?
Abu Jahl replied to Akhnas: âWoe to you! By Allaah, indeed Muhammad is a truthful person and Muhammad has never lied, but if Banu Qusay take the leadership, the position of gatekeepers of the Kabah, providers of water for the pilgrims and Prophet hood [i.e. the Prophet Muhammad is from their clan], then what will the rest of Quraish have?! (2)
[Ref 1: An Excerpt From Vol 11. Page 294]
[Ref 2: Hidaayatul Hayaaraa Fee Ajwibatil Yahood Wan-Nasaaraaâ pages 18-19. slightly paraphrased]